Having a child is expensive, but it’s difficult to wrap your head around that until you experience it. Aaron and I have always been thoughtful about our purchases, but one of the best decisions we made was hiring a financial advisor. It’s not that we make tons of money, but we wanted to start our lives together making smart retirement and savings decisions. At the time, with a kid on the way, she helped us figure out a budget that worked for us. Although everyone’s experience is different, here’s a breakdown of our first year’s cost. We were gifted many items by very generous friends and family. I’ve included the cost of these items in the total for each category.
In an effort to become a smarter shopper, I did a major closet purge to get rid of items I no longer wore or was hanging on to for purely sentimental reasons (ahem those cut off shorts from college that were still stashed in my closet!). It helped to edit down and organize what I had so I could be more conscious about what I already owned vs what I needed. It made me realize I owned upwards of 20 white t-shirts in varying degrees of dinginess, many of which I ended up tossing. But more than anything it allowed me to identify what was actively missing.
Anyone who has walked through a baby section knows there is no shortage of adorable baby girl clothes. While the options for boys is better than it used to be (or so I’m told!), it can sometimes be a struggle to find cute items for boys. I favor the one-piece rashguard swimsuits because they offer more coverage and are easier to change. Max is in a phase where he likes to pull his shirt up so a one piece minimizes his belly being exposed to sun. Since swim season is rapidly approaching, I’ve rounded up some adorable swim suits for boys.
I feel like some women have their kids names picked out in middle school, but I was not one of those women. Deciding on a baby name was hard and it was probably the only baby decision that Aaron and I made ourselves. We didn’t want to bring our friends into the decision because inevitably someone knows a “Morgan” who was “weird in 4th grade” or an “Eva” who “ate paper” or a “Joe” who “spread ketchup all over this pretzels and stuck them in his ears”. But early on we had a short list of things we wanted to consider in addition to whether we liked a name or not.
There has been a big shift since Max turned one in which our baby has turned into a little boy. Three months ago he was just starting to walk and now we can barely keep up with him. But more than that, he is coming into his own person and is starting to do things on his own. Physical changes are harder to notice since we see him everyday, but when I look back at baby pictures I can tell his face has matured so much the last few months. I’m going to be so sad when his chubby little cheeks and leg rolls disappear.